There are times in life that you shouldn’t just accept something, but you should fight for the things you want. Good things aren’t always just going to be handed to you, and hard work usually produces good fruit. But sometimes things happen that are out of our control, and we should learn how to accept it. For instance, the outcome of the election. While voting is one way we can voice what we want, we can’t control the overall outcome of what millions of people want.

This past week, another thing happened that has left several people frustrated. Netflix premiered the revival series of Gilmore Girls, finally revealing the ending that Amy Sherman-Palladino has envisioned since 2000. Don’t worry, I won’t spoil the ending, but what some are calling a cliffhanger is what was actually supposed to be the original ending to the series. Once I learned that season 7 was someone else’s doing, it made much more sense. I actually think this ending is brilliant, and I have more closure with this than the first end. If she had written all seven of the original seasons, this is how it would have ended.

There’s an art to learning how to accept the unresolved endings in life. Sometimes things don’t work out the way we expect them to, and questions are left unanswered. I’ve had relationships and situations in my life that had loose ends like the rest of it. There are times that all loose ends should be tied. There are also times when we must accept an unresolved ending. I can also respect writers who leave things with unresolved endings that reflect life’s cycles.

Not every story has a happy ending, but we should always work toward what is good and just. One day, the 2016 election and the final four words of Gilmore Girls will just be history on Wikipedia. But our lives go on, with both the happy endings, the sad endings, and the unresolved endings. Learn when to fight for the ending you want and when to accept what’s out of your control.